Just How Neutral Can a Divorce Mediator Be?


Duncan E. White, Owner
Inkpointe Divorce Solutions, LLC

IRMO, SC –Yes, a divorce mediator can easily stay neutral, because they are trained to be attentive to the needs of both parties. Mediators focus on the issues that each individual wishes to address concerning the matters most important to them. Concerns such as child custody, property, financial matters and more, can be discussed with the mediator, who will help guide the couple to a peaceful resolution.

The divorce process will be stressful.  Handling a divorce with a mediator can greatly reduce the stress during this emotional time.  The process avoids having discussions about the personal aspects of your life in such a non-personal setting like a court room(where decisions are made for you, not with you). Not to mention avoiding the stress and high cost of litigation, which definitely makes a divorce nerve-racking.

Working with a mediator also saves the children in the home from the stress of a court room setting. This is a huge benefit and can make the divorce process a less traumatic experience. The divorce mediator also has much more flexibility in the scheduling of times that they can meet with clients to resolve important issues.

Discussions with the mediator, in a private setting, one on one, also manages the tensions that can arise when talking things out.  While the mediator doesn’t make decisions for you, they are skilled at resolving conflicts and clearing the lines of communication between a disagreeing couple. They keep the discussions about issues such as child custody and the dividing of assets on track. They help each spouse voice their own needs and act as a referee, so each party feels that they are heard. Their tools can help individuals avoid unpleasant moments when discussing these highly emotional issues, hopefully making things much smoother.

The divorce mediator can also be instrumental in assuring that the financial well-being of both parties is taken care of. By teaming with divorce professionals such as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, it ensures that the important questions are answered for the clients regarding the financial outcome. The CDFA® will list the benefits of specific settlement options and advise clients on the most advantageous property divisions taking the uncertainty out of financial concerns.

Your divorce process will be an emotion, intense and highly stressful period.  It makes logical decision making difficult. At such a critical time, avoiding potential financial disaster is crucial: through professional and proper guidance, concerning financial matters, a CDFA® and mediator can help ensure financial security for both parties as they move into the next phase of their lives.

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Duncan E. White is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®) and has been a licensed financial advisor since 2010. He leads a Second Saturday Divorce Workshop each month for the benefit of those seeking information about the divorce process.

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